Online relational Trauma Therapy | UK
No Longer A Ghost In Your Own Life®
Returning to yourself after betrayal and emotionally harmful relationships
Who I Work With
You don’t need a label to know it changed you
The experiences that brought you here do not only live in memory. They live in the body.
In the nervous system. in the parts of you that learned, faithfully and intelligently, to stay small, stay watchful, stay one step ahead of something that is no longer coming.
This is not about more insight. It is about working at the level where these patterns actually live — so that change is not just understood, but genuinely felt.
Awareness gives you choices.
Regulation gives you access to those choices.
There is a way to feel steady again.
True freedom is not about becoming someone new. It’s about returning to who you’ve always been — beneath the old stories, the doubt, the survival patterns.
You don’t need the perfect words to start. If something in you knows it’s time, you're welcome to book a free clarity call.
There is a way to feel steady again, and you are allowed to choose it.
Sharon Nicholson
Registered Member MBACP (Accred)
Somatic Trauma-Informed
Trauma Therapist
BACP Accredited Counsellor
ICF Certified Coach
Narcissistic Abuse Specialist™
20+ years of supporting heart-led individuals to reclaim purpose, joy, vitality & who they truly are.
When Something Inside You Learned To Stay Small
Some wounds come from a single moment.
Others form slowly, over years, in families, partnerships, or systems where your needs were minimised, your reality questioned, or your worth gradually eroded.
You may not call it abuse.
You may not call it trauma.
But something in you learned to stay small, stay silent, stay alert, stay agreeable, or to disappear emotionally altogether.
In trauma-informed therapy, these patterns are intelligent survival responses to relational environments where safety, attunement, or consistency were missing.
Over time, living this way can leave you feeling disconnected from your identity, unsure of your direction, and quietly confused about who you are without the roles you learned to play.
Many people carry profound shame or self-blame, not only for what happened to them, but for how they adapted in order to cope.
This is not a personal failing.
These patterns are shaped by relational harm, often learned early, reinforced later, and held in the nervous system long after the danger has passed.
They are understandable responses, and they are not the whole story of you.
There Is A Way Back To Yourself
Therapy with me is somatic trauma-informed, nervous system aligned, focused, and paced with great care.
We work with both the emotional story and the body’s memory, because insight alone is rarely enough.
You don’t need to justify what happened, label it correctly, or find the right words.
We listen instead to what your nervous system is already holding: the tension, the grief, the anger you never felt safe to express, and the parts of you that went quiet to protect you.
This work is about helping you reconnect with your inner authority, rebuild self-trust, and gradually reclaim the parts of you that were lost, constrained, or overridden, so you can begin to live from a place of vitality and choice rather than survival.
For many people, this becomes a turning point — not because life suddenly changes, but because they do.
Therapies I Offer
Therapy With Brainspotting
Developed from EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing), Brainspotting is a neuroscience-informed, body-based approach to working with trauma and emotional stress.
It has become a central part of my practice.
Rather than relying on repeated analysis, Brainspotting helps us access where relational trauma and stress are held in the nervous system and body, allowing processing to unfold at a pace that feels contained and safe.
The process is collaborative and attuned. I follow your nervous system’s cues rather than a rigid protocol, supporting integration without overwhelm.
I have undertaken advanced professional training in Brainspotting and integrate it alongside parts-informed and trauma-sensitive approaches.
Brainspotting can be helpful for:
• Unresolved childhood wounds
• Chronic anxiety or emotional overwhelm
• “Stuck” trauma responses
• Traumatic grief
• The lasting impact of betrayal or narcissistic abuse
• Creative blocks
• Unwanted habits
• Nightmares & recurring dreams
• Reconnection with a steadier sense of self
Therapy is not about forcing change, but creating the conditions where change can naturally occur.
Parts-Informed Therapy
(Working with the parts within you)
It can be helpful to think of ourselves as being made up of different parts, sometimes in harmony, sometimes in conflict.
An IFS-informed approach (Internal Family Systems) allows us to gently meet the protective and younger parts of you that developed strategies like:
- Overthinking
- Shutting down
- People-pleasing
- Perfectionism
- Emotional withdrawal
These parts don’t need fixing.
They need understanding, inclusion, and relief.
Client testimonial
~ Published with consent and anonymised to preserve confidentiality
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The Body Remembers
You might not call it trauma —
but your body remembers.
Moments when your voice was silenced.
When your needs were dismissed.
When your heart was broken.
When the world shifted in a way you couldn’t prepare for.
As you give space to these inner tensions, and learn to trust yourself again, the parts of you that once hid for protection begin to emerge, ready to create, to dream, to be seen.
You Deserve To Heal
Some wounds don’t disappear with time.
They show up quietly - as self-doubt, shame or emptiness.
As perfectionism, procrastination, or people-pleasing.
"Trauma is not the story of something that happened back then, it's the current imprint of that pain."
- Bessel Van Der Kolk
To live fully is to turn toward these imprints and echoes, the subtle ways your inner world calls for care, and to help burdened parts of you release the weight of the past.
A return to aliveness.
Make your peace your purpose
Not as an endpoint, but as a way of moving through life with intention, presence, and quiet strength.
You deserve to heal.
My Approach
I work at the pace your nervous system allows.
For some people this means steady, ongoing therapy. For others, there comes a point where deeper, more focused processing feels possible — and right.
Healing does not come from pushing yourself. It comes from feeling safe enough to soften.
My approach is somatic and body-led, neuroexperiential, and rooted in Brainspotting and parts-informed practice. Gentle in pace — and genuinely effective at depth.
Together we create space for your mind to quieten, your body to release what it has been holding, the younger parts of you to feel seen, and your system to move out of survival and into connection.
This is attuned, transformative work.
Intensives are my speciality — carefully structured, extended sessions for those ready for deeper processing, particularly where trust, identity, and safety have been affected by relational harm, betrayal, or narcissistic abuse.
Intensives are offered following an initial consultation, to ensure they are the right fit. Many women experience momentum and clarity through an intensive that weekly sessions alone take much longer to reach.
Meet Me
I know what it is to carry something that is hard to name. To feel quietly unlike yourself, and not quite understand why. To have tried to make sense of something that was, in part, designed not to make sense.
I’m Sharon Nicholson, a UK-based trauma therapist specialising in relational trauma, betrayal, and recovery from narcissistic or emotionally harmful relationships.
I primarily support women, and also welcome clients of all genders.
My work recognises that deeply impacting experiences don’t just affect how you think - they live in the nervous system, the body, and the internal relational world.
I offer a warm, attuned, and carefully contained therapeutic space, designed for depth and emotional safety.
Using Brainspotting, parts-informed therapy, and somatic relational approaches, I support clients to gently access and integrate trauma patterns, restore self-trust, and reconnect with themselves.
Whether through therapy intensives or 90-minute sessions, the pace is intentional, spacious, and responsive.
If you’re seeking therapy that is deep, relational, and soulful, rather than surface-level or formulaic, you may feel at home here.
This work isn’t about changing who you are.
It’s about remembering who you’ve always been.
You are enough.
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