Online Trauma Therapy (UK)
No longer a ghost in your own life®
Release the echoes and imprints of stuck trauma & relational pain
Who I work with
I specialise in supporting high-functioning, intuitive women who have experienced relational trauma and want to move beyond the patterns that keep them stuck and living smaller than they’re meant to.
You’re capable, reliable, and self-aware - yet inside, you may carry a deep sense of aloneness, even when surrounded by people.
You might second-guess yourself, shrink to keep the peace, or over-function in relationships.
Replay conversations long after they end.
Take responsibility for things that were never yours to carry.
Part of you senses there’s more - a version of you who feels freer, more certain, able to create - yet you can’t quite access her.
Many women I work with notice a pattern:
Empathy runs deep.
Loyalty is strong.
Tolerance is high.
Over time, something in them feels smaller.
If you learned early to be the steady one - to understand others before yourself - it can feel natural to continue. So natural you don’t notice the cost.
You may understand it logically.
Yet the tension, fatigue, or stress in your body hasn’t shifted.
You don’t want more analysis.
You want to feel steady, clear, and grounded in who you truly are.
This isn’t about lacking insight. Your nervous system has been protecting you. Until it learns that it’s safe to expand, stepping fully into your life can feel overwhelming.
Through gentle, body-mind focused Brainspotting and parts-informed approaches, we work with what has kept you stuck - so your body can soften, your mind can settle, and your sense of self can return.
From there, you can step into projects, creativity, and life choices that feel aligned with who you are.
This work is for you if you’re ready to move beyond surviving and into a life that feels safe, expansive, and fully your own.
Begin your journey back to yourself.
Sharon Nicholson
Reg. MBACP (Accred)
Trauma Therapist & Coach
BACP Accredited Counsellor
Narcissistic Abuse Specialist™
When something inside you learned to stay small
Some wounds come from a single moment.
Others form slowly, over years, in families, partnerships, or systems where your needs were minimised, your reality questioned, or your worth gradually eroded.
You may not call it abuse.
You may not call it trauma.
But something in you learned to stay small, stay silent, stay alert, stay agreeable, or to disappear emotionally altogether.
In trauma-informed therapy, these patterns are intelligent survival responses to relational environments where safety, attunement, or consistency were missing.
Over time, living this way can leave you feeling disconnected from your identity, unsure of your direction, and quietly confused about who you are without the roles you learned to play.
Many people carry profound shame or self-blame, not only for what happened to them, but for how they adapted in order to cope.
This is not a personal failing.
These patterns are shaped by relational harm, often learned early, reinforced later, and held in the nervous system long after the danger has passed.
They are understandable responses, and they are not the whole story of you.
There is a way back to yourself
Therapy with me is somatic trauma-informed, nervous system aligned, focused, and paced with great care.
We work with both the emotional story and the body’s memory, because insight alone is rarely enough.
You don’t need to justify what happened, label it correctly, or find the right words.
We listen instead to what your nervous system is already holding: the tension, the grief, the anger you never felt safe to express, and the parts of you that went quiet to protect you.
This work is about helping you reconnect with your inner authority, rebuild self-trust, and gradually reclaim the parts of you that were lost, constrained, or overridden, so you can begin to live from a place of vitality and choice rather than survival.
For many people, this becomes a turning point - not because life suddenly changes, but because they do.
Work with me
20+ years of supporting heart-led individuals to reclaim purpose, joy, vitality & who they truly are
There are two ways you can work with me, depending on what you need right now...
Therapies I offer
Therapy with Brainspotting
Developed from EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing), Brainspotting is a neuroscience-informed, body-based approach to working with trauma and emotional stress.
It has become a central part of my practice. Rather than relying on repeated analysis, Brainspotting helps us access where relational trauma and stress are held in the nervous system and body, allowing processing to unfold at a pace that feels contained and safe.
The process is collaborative and attuned. I follow your nervous system’s cues rather than a rigid protocol, supporting integration without overwhelm.
I have undertaken advanced professional training in Brainspotting and integrate it alongside parts-informed and trauma-sensitive approaches.
Brainspotting can be helpful for:
• Unresolved childhood wounds
• Chronic anxiety or emotional overwhelm
• “Stuck” trauma responses
• Traumatic grief
• The lasting impact of betrayal or narcissistic abuse
• Creative blocks
• Trauma held in the body
• Reconnection with a steadier sense of self
Therapy is not about forcing change, but creating the conditions where change can naturally occur.
Parts-informed therapy
(Working with the parts within you)
It can be helpful to think of ourselves as being made up of different parts, sometimes in harmony, sometimes in conflict.
An IFS-informed approach (Internal Family Systems) allows us to gently meet the protective and younger parts of you that developed strategies like:
- Overthinking
- Shutting down
- People-pleasing
- Perfectionism
- Emotional withdrawal
These parts don’t need fixing.
They need understanding, inclusion, and relief.
Client testimonial
~ Published with consent and anonymised to preserve confidentiality
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The body remembers
You might not call it trauma -
but your body remembers.
Moments when your voice was silenced.
When your needs were dismissed.
When your heart was broken.
When the world shifted in a way you couldn’t prepare for.
As you give space to these inner tensions, and learn to trust yourself again, the parts of you that once hid for protection begin to emerge, ready to create, to dream, to be seen.
Do I see myself here?
You might recognise yourself here if:
- You no longer trust your own judgement the way you once did
- You've lost your spark, feel disconnected from who you are, or unsure what you want now
- You have difficulty making decisions
- You carry shame or guilt about staying, complying, or "allowing" things to happen
- You have nightmares or unsettling recurring dreams
- You replay conversations, feel haunted by their words, question your reactions, or wonder if it was really that bad
- You often catastrophise or feel a sense of anticipatory anxiety
- You feel responsible for other people's emotions, even when it costs you
- You're successful, you've achieved things, but they don't land - something feels empty or off
- You keep finding yourself in familiar dynamics, despite promising yourself it would be different
- You feel a quiet grief for the parts of you that disappeared along the way
- You feel that you're not enough
If some of these feel close to home, it doesn't mean you're weak, broken, or failing at healing.
It means your nervous system learned how to survive in situations where your needs, boundaries, or sense of self were repeatedly compromised.
You don't have to have the right language for what happened, and you don't need to be certain this is trauma.
What matters is how it's continuing to live in you now.
You deserve to heal
Some wounds don’t disappear with time.
They show up quietly - as self-doubt, shame or emptiness.
As perfectionism, procrastination, or people-pleasing.
"Trauma is not the story of something that happened back then, it's the current imprint of that pain."
- Bessel Van Der Kolk
To live fully is to turn toward these imprints and echoes, the subtle ways your inner world calls for care, and to help burdened parts of you release the weight of the past.
A return to aliveness.
Make your peace your purpose
Not as an endpoint, but as a way of moving through life with intention, presence, and quiet strength.
You deserve to heal.
My approach
I work at the pace your nervous system allows.
For some people, this means steady, ongoing therapy, for others, there comes a point where deeper, more focused processing feels possible.
Healing doesn’t come from pushing yourself - it comes from feeling safe enough to soften.
My approach is:
- Neuroexperiential
- Somatic and body-led
- Gentle, yet powerful and deeply effective
- Rooted in Brainspotting and IFS- informed practice
Together we create space for:
- Your mind to quieten
- Your body to release what it has held for too long
- The younger parts of you to feel seen and protected
- Your system to move out of survival and into connection
This is attuned, transformative work.
Intensives are my speciality. These are carefully structured, extended sessions designed for you if you feel ready for deeper processing, particularly where trauma has developed through relationships, betrayal, or emotionally harmful dynamics, including narcissistic abuse, where trust, identity, and safety have been deeply affected.
Intensives are offered following an initial consultation, to ensure they’re the right fit.
Meet me
I’m Sharon Nicholson, a UK-based trauma therapist specialising in relational trauma, betrayal, and recovery from narcissistic or emotionally harmful relationships.
My work recognises that these experiences don’t just affect how you think - they live in the nervous system, the body, and the internal relational world.
I offer a warm, attuned, and carefully contained therapeutic space, designed for depth, discretion, and emotional safety.
Using Brainspotting, parts-informed therapy, and somatic relational approaches, I support clients to gently access and integrate trauma patterns, restore self-trust, and reconnect with their own emotional authority.
Clients often describe the work as grounding and clarifying, a space where complex inner experiences can be explored without pressure or urgency. Whether through therapy intensives or 90-minute sessions, the pace is intentional, spacious, and responsive.
If you’re seeking therapy that is deep, relational, and soulful, rather than surface-level or formulaic, you may feel at home here.
This work isn’t about changing who you are.
It’s about remembering who you’ve always been.
You are enough.
Client testimonial
~ Published with consent and anonymised to preserve confidentiality
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