Brainspotting
Therapy that goes deeper
You've gone over it so many times. What happened. What was said. What you missed. Whether you're allowed to still be affected by it. Whether there's something wrong with you for not being over it yet.
You've tried to think your way through anxiety, trauma, betrayal, the confusion of narcissistic abuse, or the particular exhaustion of a relationship that quietly took more from you than you knew was being taken.
And thinking about it more hasn't made you feel it less.
That's not because you're doing it wrong, it's because these experiences don't live in the thinking mind.
They live in the body.
Brainspotting works there - in the place where the body holds what the mind keeps circling.
What is Brainspotting?
Brainspotting is a neuroexperiential therapy built on a simple principle: where you look affects how you feel.
By finding a specific eye position linked to where you're holding tension or sensation in your body, Brainspotting accesses the deeper parts of the brain involved in trauma and emotional memory - the parts that don't respond to logic or language, but do respond to this.
You don't need to go over the story again. You don't need to explain it or find the right words.
Your body sets the pace.
Sessions include bilateral music - sound that moves gently from ear to ear - which supports the nervous system to settle into deeper processing.
The work is quiet, collaborative, and entirely at your pace. Nothing forced. Nothing rushed.
🌿 "I have tried CBT, Hypnotherapy, Mindfulness, Compassionate Mind Training and have a whole library of books on the subject - but nothing has really worked long term until I discovered Brainspotting."
- Client experience
What is a brainspot?
A brainspot is the eye position that connects to where you're holding something in your body: a tightness, a heaviness, a flutter in your chest.
When we find it and stay with it, your brain can process what's held at a deeper level than words usually reach.
You don't need to explain it, relive it or get it right. We follow what your body shows us, and you stay in charge of the pace.
If you've been searching for EMDR therapy
Brainspotting evolved from EMDR and works in a similar way - accessing the nervous system through eye positioning and bilateral music.
Many people find Brainspotting intuitive, gentle in practice, and surprisingly powerful.
If you've been considering EMDR, a clarity call is the right place to explore which might be a better fit for you.
What Brainspotting can help with
- Brainspotting may be especially helpful if you're carrying the impact of betrayal or relational trauma:
- The aftermath of betrayal: lost trust, lost confidence in your own judgement, and grief that won't quite clear
- Looping thoughts, replaying conversations, and a hypervigilance that doesn't switch off even when you're safe
- The self-doubt and confusion left by narcissistic abuse, coercive control or gaslighting
- Waves of anxiety, a tightening chest or a heart-sink feeling that arrive without warning
- Memories, images or flashbacks that still carry a charge
- A persistent belief that you're not enough, felt in the body even when your mind knows better
- Shame that feels lodged somewhere words haven't reached
- Numbness, or watching your life from a slight distance
- The grief of losing the relationship you thought you had, a version of yourself, or the future you'd planned
- Childhood relational experiences that still shape how you trust now
- Brainspotting is also used for single-event trauma and PTSD symptoms. If that's what brings you here, mention it on your clarity call.
If you've been trying to think your way through it and still feel it every day, Brainspotting may offer the way through that thinking hasn't been able to find.
When something begins to shift at that level, it doesn't just change how you feel - it changes what becomes possible moving forwards.
🌿 "I was sceptical before trying it and couldn't understand how it made such a difference and change - but having tried it and still not being able to explain how it works, I appreciate that it has made a difference to me and how I cope and manage on a day to day basis."
- Client experience
🌿 "Brainspotting was a powerful, transformative experience and has had very positive ongoing effects for me. I feel happier, stronger, less anxious and better equipped to deal with whatever challenges life may bring."
- Client experience
My Brainspotting training
I've completed Brainspotting Phases 1 to 4, trained directly with Dr David Grand, who developed Brainspotting, and Dr Mark Grixti, Head of Brainspotting UK.
I've also completed specialist training in Expansion, Brainspotting intensives and From Freeze to Thaw, alongside 20+ years of clinical experience and BACP Accreditation since 2009.
Full details on my qualifications & training page
What people notice
Clients often notice a relaxing, a lightness where things previously felt heavy, and a sense of relief that the emotional charge is no longer there when they think about difficult memories or experiences.
And underneath it, permission to be themselves.
Ways to work with me
I offer Brainspotting through an intensive or 90-minute sessions.