Brainspotting

You've thought about it enough. Your body knows the way through.

You've gone over it so many times.

What happened. What was said. What you missed. What it means. Whether it counts. Whether you're allowed to still be affected by it. Whether there's something wrong with you for not being over it yet.

You've tried to think your way through trauma, betrayal, through the confusion of narcissistic abuse, through the particular exhaustion of a relationship that quietly took more from you than you knew was being taken.

And thinking about it more hasn't made you feel it less.

That's not because you're doing it wrong. It's because these deeply impacting experiences don't live in the thinking mind. They live in the body. In the nervous system. 

In the tension you carry without knowing you're carrying it, the bracing that happens before you've consciously registered anything, the anxiety that doesn't match your present life because it belongs to something that's already over.

Your body has been keeping an account of all of it, quietly, without being asked, because that's what our bodies do when the mind can't hold everything at once.

Brainspotting works there, in the place where the body holds what the mind keeps circling.

Brainspotting is a body-based, neuroscience-informed therapy built on a principle, 'Where you look affects how you feel.'

By finding a specific eye position linked to where you're holding tension, emotion, or sensation in your body, Brainspotting accesses the deeper parts of the brain involved in trauma and emotional memory, the parts that don't respond to logic or language, but do respond to this.

You can talk as much as you choose, You don't need to go over the story again. You don't need to explain it, justify it, or find the right words for it. Your body sets the pace.

Sessions include listening to bilateral music, sound that moves gently from ear to ear,  which supports the nervous system to settle into deeper processing. 

The work is quiet, collaborative, and entirely at your pace.

Nothing forced. Nothing rushed.

Brainspotting  may be especially helpful if you're carrying:

• The aftermath of betrayal: the loss of trust, the loss of yourself, the grief that won't quite clear

• The confusion and self-doubt left behind by narcissistic abuse or coercive control

• A traumatic or deeply impacting experience you just can't seem to move on from

• An anxiety or hypervigilance that doesn't switch off, even when you're safe

• A body that's still bracing for something that's already over

• Shame that feels lodged somewhere words haven't reached

• The grief of losing a relationship, a version of yourself, a future that no longer exists

• A persistent belief that you are not enough, felt in the body even when the mind knows better

• Intrusive thoughts, recurring dreams, a sense of being stuck in something you can't quite get past

• Numbness, disconnection, the feeling of watching your life from a slight distance

If you've been trying to think your way through it and still feel it every day,  Brainspotting may offer the way through that thinking hasn't been able to find.

And when something begins to shift at that level, it doesn't just change how you feel. It changes what becomes possible.

I offer Brainspotting either through Intensives or 90-minute sessions.

→ Betrayal Trauma Intensive

→ Relational Trauma Intensive

→ 90-Minute Sessions

People who've worked with me using Brainspotting often describe something they weren't quite expecting.

Not a dramatic breakthrough. More like a loosening. Something releasing its grip, something that had been held, tightly, for much longer than they realised.

The body a little less braced. The shame a little lighter. The replaying a little quieter.

And underneath it, something they'd almost stopped believing was still there.

Themselves. 

You don't need the right words. You don't need to have your story straight or know exactly what you're working with.

You just need a sense, somewhere in your body,  that you're ready for something different.

🌿 "To anyone thinking about starting this Brainspotting journey with Sharon, all I can say is just do it! The benefits are huge and it's time those of us who are affected by the past break free from it all and move forward with peace and happiness. Brainspotting is truly remarkable and Sharon is an excellent guide. I can highly recommend it!"

 —Client experience