Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

Narcissistic Abuse is trauma.

It is known as an emotional or psychological abuse, but the emotional manipulation we suffer can result in financial, sexual and spiritual abuse too. It really can be crushing.

We can experience Narcissistic Abuse in many relationships, within an intimate relationship, a friendship, within our families and even within the workplace.

With the right support, we can recover, heal and thrive after the impact of this insidious abuse.

As a therapist, my specialism is Narcissistic Abuse recovery and I offer you a compassionate, non-judgemental integration of somatic trauma informed therapy and coaching to fully support your healing process.

Post Traumatic Growth is real!

If you have been in a relationship with someone who has strong Narcissistic traits, or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), you are likely still feeling very confused about the relationship, even if it ended some time ago.

You may feel bereft or anxious, distressed about conflicting thoughts and feelings, never really being able to land with these or trust your own experience.

You may have been discarded by this person, as if you had meant nothing to them, and yet find that you still want to be back in a relationship with them at times. 

You may find yourself searching for answers and not being able to find them.

If you were the one that managed to break free from the relationship, you may wonder why you do not have the sense of peace or closure that you thought you would have. 

You may feel very angry.

You may feel that you are not good enough, lost and directionless, empty or numb, struggling with low self-confidence and self-worth.

Narcissistic Abuse can feel devastating, but we really can recover.  

There is a particular kind of painful loneliness that can be experienced with Narcissistic Abuse. 

We may have been isolated from our friends and family and feel that we are totally alone.

It is often such a hidden experience and the person who has perpetrated the abuse may even present as charming, generous and very likeable to others.

You may feel that others don't believe you and at times you may not be able to believe yourself.

When we have experienced gaslighting, it can be difficult for us to trust our own judgement.

I believe you.

If we have found ourselves trying to appease and please others, we may feel that we have caused the abuse or allowed all of this to happen somehow.

As a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Therapist, I can confidently tell you that you neither caused the abuse, or allowed it. You survived it.

Feelings of shame and guilt can be crippling after experiencing Narcissistic Abuse, but none of this has been your fault.

You are NOT responsible for what has happened to you. 

Your kind, empathic nature will have been taken advantage of, especially if you have a pattern of putting everyone else's needs above your own.

Being intentional with your healing will allow you to step back into your power...it may not feel like it right now, but it really is possible.

We are very likely to experience Complex PTSD after being subjected to this kind of sustained abuse. 

The support of a therapist who understands this will help you to effectively navigate your recovery and healing.

I have specialist training and certification in working with Complex PTSD ~ Qualifications & Training

Symptoms of Complex PTSD include:

• Feelings of worthlessness, guilt and shame
• Feelings of being a failure and that you should have done things differently to escape or leave
• Feelings of emptiness or hopelessness
• Intense feelings of anger, fear, sadness or despair
• Difficulty regulating your emotions 
• Difficulty trusting others and avoidance of friendships and relationships
• Feelings of being different to other people, that nobody can understand what happened to you
• Memory difficulties - dissociation experiences can leave experiences feeling scattered or disjointed

Healing will mean different things to different people, but time alone will not give us the nervous system level of recovery that we will need.

I have been supporting people to recognise, recover and heal from this complex trauma for the last 17 years.

My Somatic approach allows for deeper, nervous system level healing.

Please hear me when I tell you that you are not going mad, despite what you may have been told by the person who has abused you.

Recovery is possible.

Healing is possible.

Thriving after this trauma is possible.

If you are still in the relationship and you are feeling confused about what is happening, why the person is so lovely one moment and then so cruel the next, therapy can help you to find some clarity and safely navigate your needs.

Walking on eggshells around someone is just one of the reasons that we may feel so exhausted.

I am here for you when you feel ready to take the next step towards finding clarity, recovery and healing. 

You really can trust yourself.