Healing and transformation!

In my 40s, despite nearly two decades as a therapeutic counsellor, I found myself feeling unfulfilled, disconnected, and stuck. From the outside, it seemed like I had it all together, but inside, I was struggling. A chronic illness diagnosis had shifted my physical and emotional health, and perimenopause dysregulation added to the waves of fatigue that drained me. It was as if someone had extracted the energy from every cell in my body. I didn't recognise myself.

Looking back, I now realise these feelings of being stuck and disconnected had been brewing for years. Before beginning my journey as a therapist in my 30s, I had lived disconnected from who I truly was. 

People-pleasing and perfectionism had ruled my life, leaving me constantly feeling like I wasn’t good enough. I lacked boundaries and, as a result, found myself trapped in unhealthy relationships and work environments. I hadn’t yet recognised the depth of my trauma, but it was there, shaping my every experience.

Like many, if not most of us, I have experienced multiple traumas throughout my life. But the trauma of narcissistic abuse had left a deep wound—it was as if I had become a ghost in my own life. 

For years, I carried that pain without realising how much it was holding me back. My healing journey began when I trained as a therapist. I had my own talking therapy sessions for a while, but any relief from painful emotions was short-lived, in fact, just talking about it left me going around and around in painful circles, not really getting anywhere. 

My training led me to body-mind work, and much later, through training as a Somatic, Trauma-Informed Coach and Narcissistic Abuse Specialist™, I discovered Brainspotting, a powerful body-mind therapy that not only complimented my existing way of working, but also became the catalyst for my own deeper healing.

It's difficult to put into words how transformative the sessions were, but it was physical as well as emotional. I felt a distinct shift in my energy levels, and where there had been a feeling of being stuck, I now had a sense of flow.

I just felt more confident and comfortable in my own skin.

Now in my 50s, I’m more passionate than ever about my work. Not just because of the impact I’ve seen in others, but because I’ve lived it. I know what it feels like to be trapped by trauma and to feel disconnected from yourself and your life. There is no perfect life, but I know that healing from trauma is possible.

Today, through my personal experiences and professional training, I help clients break free from what’s truly holding them back. Together, we work to heal unresolved trauma, release old patterns, and step into lives filled with meaning and purpose.

Sense of identity

I'm a dancer, dreamer, doodler and deep thinker. I describe myself as intuitive and empathic.

I never really considered myself to be a creative person previously , but my therapeutic work is deeply and powerfully creative. 

I use powerful interventions such as inner child work and the neuro experiential modality of Brainspotting...who was I kidding that I'm not creative?...and this is how powerful our inner blocks can be, telling us that we are not good enough, not clever enough, not creative enough to be creative!

I didn't know it at the time, but the complex trauma of narcissistic abuse was to eventually be my catalyst for change. 

Allow your painful feelings to be your catalyst for change.

I love making memories with the people that I love, and who love me. 

I love sunsets and sunrises, although I'm rarely up early enough to catch the latter! 

I love to sit on a balcony and just absorb a wonderfully expansive view when I'm fortunate enough to take a holiday...add in the sunrise or sunset and that's pure bliss! 

I'm inspired by a good book and I love to wander by the sea, especially wrapped up snug and warm on a crisp cold, blustery day ~ there's nothing quite like blowing the cobwebs.

I love the changing colours of nature in the Autumn, the sound of the wind blowing through crisp leaves. 

To get lost in a film is a real treat and I really do love to dance, even if just around my lounge ~ lots would say their kitchen but that's really not my favourite room in the house!

There was a time when I had no idea what I loved, I'd moved so far away from myself that all of this was completely off my radar. It really is a joy to be able to list these for you here.

It's never too late to heal.