Reclaiming You Intensive - Narcissistic abuse recovery
Trauma recovery for those who no longer feel like themselves
You didn't lose yourself.
You adapted to survive something that asked too much of you.
Perhaps you spent years walking on eggshells. Questioning your own perceptions. Managing someone else's emotions before your own. Keeping the peace by making yourself smaller.
Perhaps you have left the relationship - but you're still living with what it taught you to believe about yourself.
You may still second-guess your decisions. Feel responsible for someone else's feelings. Question what really happened. Hear their voice when you're making choices. Feel guilty for putting yourself first.
Perhaps you call it narcissistic abuse. Emotional manipulation. A trauma bond. Or perhaps you're still not sure what to call it.
What you know is that somewhere along the way, you became less certain of yourself.
Less able to trust your own judgement.
Less connected to what you want, need or feel.
And now that you're out, you're beginning to realise that leaving the relationship and finding yourself again are not always the same thing.
This is where the work of reclaiming you begins.
Why Brainspotting
You can understand why you people-please, why you doubt yourself, or why you keep shrinking in relationships - and still find yourself doing the same thing when you're under pressure.
That's because understanding isn't always enough to change the patterns you've learned through experience.
Brainspotting is a gentle trauma therapy that works with the deeper emotional and physical responses that can remain after overwhelming experiences.
It uses a fixed eye position alongside your awareness of what you are experiencing, allowing the work to move beyond talking and analysis.
Many people describe a gradual shift in how they respond as this work unfolds - less intensity around old triggers, greater access to themselves, and a growing sense that the past doesn't have quite the same hold on the present.
Every person's process is different, and no particular outcome can be guaranteed.
Brainspotting was developed by Dr David Grand from his work with EMDR. I trained with Dr Grand, the therapy's founder, and Dr Mark Grixti, Head of Brainspotting UK, alongside further specialist training in Complex Trauma, Levels 1 & 2 (CCTP/CCTP-II), with Janina Fisher, PhD, and Narcissistic Abuse Specialist™ training with The School of Embodied Trauma Informed Living.