Reclaiming You Intensive - Narcissistic abuse recovery

3 days online · three hours each day · weekend dates available each month

You didn't lose yourself.

You adapted to survive something that asked too much of you.

Perhaps you spent years walking on eggshells. Questioning your own perceptions. Managing someone else's feelings before your own. Keeping the peace by making yourself smaller.

Perhaps you've left, and you're still living with what it taught you to believe about yourself. You still second-guess. Still feel responsible. Still hear their voice when you're making choices.

You may know why. You may know the relationship wasn't healthy, and that you're allowed to choose for yourself.

And the old patterns still show up automatically.

Perhaps you call it narcissistic abuse, emotional manipulation, a trauma bond, or perhaps you're still not sure what to call it.

What you do know is that somewhere along the way, you became less certain of yourself. less able to trust your own judgement. 

Less connected to what you want, need or feel.

You're beginning to realise that leaving the relationship and finding yourself again are not always the same thing.

This intensive gives you sustained space to work with the parts of you that learned to cope, and with what they're still holding. And there's room for what comes next: trusting your own judgement, knowing what you want, and feeling like yourself again.

This is where the work of reclaiming you begins.

People often choose the intensive when they understand the patterns and still feel caught in them. When weekly sessions have helped but haven't shifted the automatic responses, or when they'd rather not spread the work over months.

You can understand why you people-please, why you doubt yourself, or why you keep shrinking in relationships - and still find yourself doing the same thing when you're under pressure.

That's because understanding isn't always enough to change the patterns you've learned through experience.

Brainspotting is a gentle trauma therapy that works with the deeper emotional and physical responses that can remain after overwhelming experiences.

It uses a fixed eye position alongside your awareness of what you are experiencing, allowing the work to move beyond talking and analysis.

Many people describe a gradual shift in how they respond as this work unfolds - less intensity around old triggers, greater access to themselves, and a growing sense that the past doesn't have quite the same hold on the present.

Every person's process is different, and no particular outcome can be guaranteed.

Brainspotting was developed by Dr David Grand from his work with EMDR. I trained with Dr Grand, the therapy's founder, and Dr Mark Grixti, Head of Brainspotting UK, alongside further specialist training in Complex Trauma, Levels 1 & 2 (CCTP/CCTP-II), with Janina Fisher, PhD, and Narcissistic Abuse Specialist™ training with The School of Embodied Trauma Informed Living.