Betrayal Trauma Intensive

You can't stop going over things - even now, even this long after.

The conversation, the discovery, or the moment your body knew before your mind was ready to believe it.

It still plays on a loop - at 3am, in the car, mid-conversation with someone who has no idea where your mind just went.

Maybe you're still trying to decide. Stay or go. Trust or don't. Maybe that decision was already made - by you, or for you - and you're still trying to find your footing on the other side of it. 

Either way, certainty keeps slipping away. Every time you get close, the loop starts again.

You don't need to decide whether an intensive is right for you before you speak with me, that's something we can work out together, once I've heard what's happening for you.

Betrayal trauma has a particular quality.

Your nervous system stays on alert, as though it is still searching for the next piece of information that might finally make sense of what happened. It doesn't feel like a choice, because it isn't one. You're not choosing to keep going over it. Some part of you genuinely believes that if it searches hard enough, it will finally find the thing that lets you rest.

And underneath is grief - for what happened, and for the future you thought you had.

Nothing about your response is irrational. It is a nervous system responding to relational shock and prolonged uncertainty, doing exactly what nervous systems are built to do when the ground has shifted beneath them.

When trust has been shattered, your mind rarely gets a day off.

You keep functioning. You answer emails. You make dinner. You smile, but underneath, your mind is still trying to solve something that refuses to settle. 

An intensive creates something different. Dedicated space where your system does not have to keep starting and stopping.

Where the work can continue, rather than having to stop just as something important is beginning to emerge.

An intensive isn't simply several therapy sessions placed next to one another. The value is in the continuity. 

For many who have been carrying this for years, an intensive is what finally makes it possible to move forward, rather than continuing to manage it. 

We can stay with the work while it is active, rather than opening something significant and then having to put it down for another week.

Weekend intensives available 

If weekdays are difficult to fit around work, family or other commitments, this intensive can be arranged over a weekend. Limited weekend dates are available each month. Please enquire for current availability.

Not rushed. Just uninterrupted.

🌿 "I have tried CBT, hypnotherapy, mindfulness, compassionate mind training and have a whole library of books on the subject, but nothing has really worked long term until I discovered Brainspotting."

— Client experience

Talking about what happened can help you understand it. But understanding doesn't always reach the deeper emotional and bodily responses that can remain after a deeply impacting experience. 

Brainspotting works with those responses, alongside the thinking mind, which is why so many arrive here having already tried talking therapy, sometimes for years, and still feeling exactly as stuck as when they started.

Developed by Dr David Grand, Brainspotting is a brain-body psychotherapy that emerged from his work with EMDR. It uses your visual field and your body's responses to help you access and process emotional material that may not shift through talking and understanding alone. There's no need to relive every detail, or find the perfect words.

What tends to change isn't the facts of what happened. Those don't disappear, and this work was never about forgetting. What changes, for many people, is the grip they have on you. The memory that once sent your whole body into a spiral becomes something you can hold without it holding you. This isn't a guarantee, and every person's process is different, but it is what I've witnessed, consistently, across years of this work.

I trained in Brainspotting with Dr David Grand, the therapy's founder, and Dr Mark Grixti, Head of Brainspotting UK, alongside further training in Complex Trauma, Levels 1 & 2,(CCTP/CCTP-II) - Janina Fisher, PhD.

You don't have to work any of this out alone before you reach out. Here's exactly what happens, step by step.

1. Free 20-minute clarity call

A short, informal conversation to explore what's bringing you here, answer any initial questions, and see whether working together feels like the right fit.

2. 90-minute initial consultation — £180

Everyone starts here, whether you are considering an intensive or ongoing therapy. This is a therapeutic session: we'll explore your history, what's happening for you now, what you'd like support with, and what approach is likely to be most helpful.

If an intensive feels appropriate, we'll use this session to plan it together. If ongoing therapy feels like the better fit, we can discuss that instead. There is no obligation to book an intensive, or to continue beyond the consultation.

3. The right next step

If an intensive feels appropriate, we arrange two or three consecutive days of three-hour sessions. If ongoing therapy feels more appropriate, we arrange regular 90-minute sessions instead.

4. Integration

For intensive clients, a 90-minute follow-up session takes place 7-14 days later, giving us space to reflect on what has shifted and support the integration of the work.

Your intensive takes place online, in your own space or somewhere that feels supportive.

Some people stay at home, others choose to spend a couple of days at a hotel, lodge, cottage or quiet space to step fully out of daily demands.

Each intensive typically includes:

• 2 or 3 consecutive days of 3-hour Brainspotting sessions

• Bilateral music, if this feels supportive for you

• Parts-informed therapy - recognising the different parts of you carrying this

• Nervous system regulation and grounding

• A 90-minute follow-up integration session (7–14 days later)

Each intensive is tailored carefully to where you are, and paced to feel safe throughout.  There is no fixed programme to work through, and no packaged formula applied the same way to everyone. Each intensive is built around your history, your current circumstances, and what you want to work towards.

The integration session, 7-14 days later, is where we look at what's shifted, and what's still settling.

From there, some people feel the intensive has given them the space and support they needed at that point. Others choose to continue with ongoing 90-minute sessions, to keep building on what the intensive began. There's no expectation either way. What happens next is shaped by what you actually need, not by a predetermined next step.

• You are navigating betrayal, a shattering of trust, an affair or infidelity specifically - whether recent or many years ago

• You are exhausted by carrying the decision on your own

• You find yourself replaying events or conversations

• You feel stuck between knowing and not knowing

• You experience anxiety, hypervigilance, or emotional exhaustion

• You are grieving not just what happened, but the future you thought you had

• You feel unlike yourself and can’t pinpoint when that shifted

• You have tried talking therapy but still feel emotionally or physically stuck

• You want dedicated time away from everyday demands to focus on the work

• You are ready for support that goes beyond talking alone

• You feel able to set aside the time and space needed for concentrated therapeutic work

Many come believing they need to decide whether to stay or leave before therapy can help. They don't.

Uncertainty is often where this begins.