She is still in there
No Longer a Ghost in Your Own Life®
A Relational Trauma Healing Companion
by Sharon Nicholson
She is still in there
The version of you that trusted herself.
That felt like enough.
That moved through the world without shrinking herself.
If something in you recognised those words, this was made for you.
Whether you've found your way here through therapy, through late-night searching, or through a quiet sense that something here feels familiar — you are welcome here.
No Longer a Ghost in Your Own Life® is a 197-page somatic healing companion written as personal letters directly to you.
Created for those healing from betrayal trauma, narcissistic abuse, relational trauma, and the long exhaustion of invisible harm.
Not just something to read.
Something to live in.
£47 · Instant digital download
This can be used independently or alongside therapy
Inside this companion you’ll find
Nineteen letters. Written for exactly where you are.
Each letter meets a different layer of relational trauma recovery — with warmth, clarity, and nervous system understanding. No pressure. No required pace.
A few of the letters included:
When The Confusion Was The Point
Gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, coercive control, and the slow rewriting of reality.
When You Started To Disappear
The erosion of self-trust, identity, and instinct — and the understanding that what went quiet is still there, waiting.
Am I Overreacting?
Where that question really came from. And what it might mean to finally stop asking it on someone else's behalf.
The Grief Of The Good Times
Permission to miss them. To mourn what was real, or almost real. The specific wound of betrayal trauma, named and held.
Rebuilding Self-Trust
Returning to your instincts, your perceptions, your own knowing — like a language you once spoke fluently and thought you had forgotten.
Letters You Never Sent
A private space for the words that never found their way out.
Alongside the letters you’ll also find:
• nervous system education
• somatic grounding practices
• parts-informed reflections
• guided journalling prompts
• pattern mapping exercises
• worksheets and writing space
• a gentle 14-day tracker
• tools for understanding triggers, hypervigilance, trauma responses, and emotional activation
Everything is designed to help you reconnect with yourself gently, not force yourself forward before you are ready.
The nights deserve their own space
Included with your purchase is a free 57-page sleep companion:
When the Nights Are Loud.
Created for:
• 2am looping thoughts
• hypervigilance
• emotional activation at night
• early morning waking
• replaying conversations in the dark
• nervous system overwhelm at night
Inside you’ll find:
• grounding practices
• night-time reflections
• gentle somatic exercises
• nervous system settling tools
• pages to write in
• a morning letter for difficult wake-ups
Not another thing to achieve.
Just something to reach for when the nights feel especially heavy.
EVERYTHING YOU RECEIVE
No Longer a Ghost in Your Own Life® — 197 pages
19 letters for the different layers of relational trauma recovery, somatic grounding practices, nervous system education, guided reflections and writing prompts, pattern mapping, worksheets, and a gentle 14-day tracker.
When the Nights Are Loud — 57 pages · included free
A dedicated sleep companion for the hours when everything feels louder. Somatic practices, grounding exercises, night pages to write in, and a morning letter for difficult wake-ups.
A single 90-minute therapy session with me costs £180. This companion is drawn from the same clinical frameworks, therapeutic sequencing, and lived understanding that inform my specialist trauma work — 254 pages of it — for £47. Without a waiting list. Without a fixed appointment. Available whenever you need it.
This is a self-guided therapeutic resource and is not therapy or crisis support.
254 pages · Instant download · £47
Yours to return to for as long as you need.
THIS COMPANION IS DIFFERENT
You can find information about narcissistic abuse anywhere. What you cannot find is 197 pages written by someone who has sat with hundreds of women carrying exactly this, and who has carried it herself.
It was built, slowly and carefully, from two decades of clinical work and personal experience, into something with a specific therapeutic arc, a considered sequence, and a voice that knows what it is to be inside this, not just to describe it from the outside.
That is not something you can search for.
Most self-help asks you to think your way to a different place. This works differently.
The letters, practices, and prompts are drawn from somatic, trauma-informed, and parts-informed frameworks — the same approaches that underpin my 1:1 clinical work.
They are designed to engage not just the thinking mind, but the body's experience, the nervous system's patterns, and the internal parts of you that have been working hard, for a long time, to keep you safe.
This is not about analysing what happened.
It is about creating the conditions, gently and at your own pace, in which something can begin to shift at the level where it is actually held.
There is no right way to use this companion.
Some readers spend weeks with one letter.
Others move around intuitively.
You are always free to pause, skip sections, or return later.
This is not a workbook to complete perfectly.
It is a companion to return to.
You do not need to be in therapy for it to help.
Many people also use it alongside therapy between sessions.
This resource is educational and reflective in nature and is not a replacement for professional mental health support or crisis care.
CREATED BY SOMEONE WHO HAS BEEN HERE TOO
I'm Sharon Nicholson — BACP Accredited Counsellor, Brainspotting Practitioner, Certified Narcissistic Abuse Specialist™, and ICF Certified Somatic Trauma-Informed Coach.
I have worked with people recovering from relational trauma and narcissistic abuse for over 20 years, including 10 years as a Senior Counsellor in the NHS, specialising in counselling for depression, and as a therapist in a women's refuge supporting women at the most acute stages of their experiences.
I created this companion because I know this territory from the inside.
I have my own lived experience of relational trauma. I know what it is to carry shame quietly, to question your own reality, and to lie awake when everything else has gone still.
At that time, I needed something like this. It didn't exist. So I created it — for you, and for the version of me that needed it too.
Warmly,
Sharon x
BACP Accredited Counsellor · Certified Narcissistic Abuse Specialist™ · Brainspotting Practitioner · ICF Certified Somatic Trauma-Informed Coach